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Hi readers, in this post I am going to go over the top ten most dangerous mistakes men make and how to avoid them.
1. Being too nice and showing too much interest.
When a man meets a woman he is very interested in, he tends to become
over accommodating and starts acting extra nice. He will do things like
laugh at things that aren’t too funny. He will agree with everything
she says. He will offer to help her in any way that he can. And he will
generally display to her that he is willing to do whatever she asks of
him in exchange for her to like him. This is a recipe for failure.
A woman doesn’t feel attraction to a man who presents himself to her
as a subservient servant. Once a woman knows that you are willing to do
anything to be with her, all the challenge is gone and she immediately
loses all interest and attraction for that man. Instead you want to show
women that you are a challenge. You want to show her that you have
personal power and don’t need to suck up to her in order to get her love
and approval. Keep your power for you because a woman wants to date a
powerful man, not a subservient wimp.
2. Leaning In
Another mistake men make is leaning into the woman too much. Leaning
in means that you physically lean your body towards her when you are
talking to her; this is not attractive and sub communicates that you are
bowing to her and that you believe that she is more valuable and
powerful that you are. In short, leaning in is a sign of submission.
A woman wants a man who is more powerful than her, not less powerful.
So in order to sub-communicate to a woman that you are more powerful
and dominant than her make sure you always stand in an erect fashion and
even lean back a bit; this sub communicates that you are confident,
powerful and have high self esteem. All those qualities are attractive
to women. Never lean in; always lean back
3: Not Taking The Lead In An Interaction
Most men try to get the woman to lead the interaction and
conversation; this is a huge mistake and makes women lose attraction
immediately. Asking a woman a string of questions just to get her
talking is not the way to gain rapport with her and make her like you.
When you put all the pressure on a woman to lead the interaction and
do all the talking she will get annoyed and leave. Also, asking a woman
what she wants to do instead of planning everything and just inviting
her along is also a huge mistake; women hate having to lead and make
decisions. From now on always take the lead in all your conversations
with women. Lead the conversation where you want it to go.
Also be assertive and be the one who decides where you guys are going
to go out and what you are going to do. Always always lead.
4. Thinking Of What To Say Next
When talking to an attractive woman, men are usually up in their heads thinking about what they’re going to say next.
When you are up in your head instead of in the present moment really
listening to her then she is not going to feel much connection with you.
She is going to see that you look distracted; she will think you aren’t
really listening to her and don’t care about what she has to say. When
you are thinking about what you are going to say next you lose the
intimate connection that is necessary to develop with a woman in order
for her to feel attracted to you.
Instead of thinking about what to say next, be in the moment, get
present in your body and really listen to her. Once you start truly
listening to her, you will connect with her because you are being in the
moment; and when you are in the moment the woman can feel a true
connection with you.
5. Trying To Impress Women
A lot of men think they have to impress a woman into liking them;
this is wrong. Sitting there talking about yourself and how great you
are does very little to stimulate interest or attraction in a woman.
When a woman sees that you are obsessed with yourself and always talking
about your possessions and accomplishments, she’s going to think you
are a selfish self centered loser.
What a woman wants is a man who cares about her and wants to connect
with her and learn about her hopes and dreams. So from now on forget
about impressing a woman and instead focus on connecting with her. Get
curious about her, her life, her dreams, passions, struggles; once you
do this the woman will feel very connected and safe with you. Once she
feels connected and safe then her next emotion is usually attraction.
6. Telling Her You Like Her Too Soon
A lot of times you will meet a woman that you really like and you
will have this powerful urge to express to her how crazy you are about
her; don’t do this! Many men make the mistake of expressing their
interest to a woman too soon and then the woman is turned off and runs
away. You need to always keep a woman suspended between hope and doubt; a
woman wants a challenge.
The second a woman knows that she can have you, she loses interest in
you. You need to show her a little interest and then balance that
interest with displays of disinterest; this will always keep her
guessing about you and keep you a challenge in her eyes
7. Talking About Negative Things
When you meet a woman never talk about anything negative. Most men
tend to talk about a lot of negative things when they first meet a
woman; he talks about his ex girlfriend, his break up, how he is
struggling at work, how crappy the weather is etc.
Women hate this; they just want someone who will make them feel
happy. So always make sure you only talk about positive fun things when
you are with a woman. Take her on an adventure and allow her to forget
about her mundane troublesome life. She wants a man who will add
excitement and joy to her life, not bring her down into the dumps.
8. Having Weak Body Language
When you are talking to a beautiful woman don’t fidget or move around
too much. A woman is attracted to a man who is confident and
comfortable in his own skin.If you are nervous, fidgeting, looking
around a lot, speaking too quickly and not keeping strong eye contact
then then woman is going to sense that you are weak and her attraction
will die.Be calm and strong in the presence of a woman.
Make your movements slow and relaxed, keep strong eye contact, speak
slowly, breath slowly, be as relaxed as possible. An alpha male is
always relaxed and in control of himself and the situation; that’s what
women are attracted to.
9. Not Dressing Properly Or Being Well Groomed
If you want a beautiful woman in your life you have to present
yourself in an attractive fashion. A lot of men have a very unattractive
style. Make sure you don’t wear runners with jeans. Wear black socks
with pants and white socks with shorts. Make sure your clothes fit your
body and look good on you. Always shower and smell good. Make sure all
your body hairs are trimmed including nose and ear hair if you have
them. A woman judges you by your style, how you are groomed and how well
you take care of your body. A woman wants a healthy, clean, stylish
man; not a slob. The way you take care of yourself tells her a lot about
how well you will take care of her.
10. Calling Her Too Much
When you get a woman’s phone number, email address or facebook, this
does not give you permission to call her and talk to her all the time. A
lot of men get too excited when they get a woman’s contact info and
start calling too much, texting too much or writing very long facebook
messages to her; all these behaviors creep women out so don’t do them.
If she sees that you are too available and contacting her all the
time she will think you are desperate and weird; she will stop feeling
attraction for you and start avoiding you. Always keep your contact with
her brief and casual. Maintain this until after you have had sex with
her. This way you are sure not to scare her off before the relationship
has time to develop and mature.
Warmest Regards,
